It can be difficult to propose to your boyfriend.It is possible to plan the perfect proposal for your boyfriend.
Step 1: He should be ready for marriage.
Make sure marriage is on the table before you propose.You need to make sure your boyfriend is interested in marrying if you want to ruin the surprise.Get a sense of whether marriage is a good idea by talking about it.You can bring it up.Say something like, “Do you think we’ll ever get married?”Discuss a proposal when talking about marriage.Do you like the idea of a formal proposal?As a couple, some people prefer to get engaged.If your boyfriend has ever mentioned the idea of getting married, it’s time to check with a close friend.
Step 2: Find out what his dream engagement is.
If he wants you to propose to him, or if he would rather have a conversation first, you should see.You can casually mention this in advance of your proposal so that you both know about it.When you imagine getting engaged, what do you picture?Do you have any friends with great engagement stories?If you don’t think your boyfriend would approve of a traditional surprise engagement, consider how the two of you could mark the occasion together.He may want the two of you to pick out engagement rings.
Step 3: Add a twist to what he wants.
Think about what your boyfriend would want.Your boyfriend might have brought up the subject before.Provide a small twist to honor his wishes.Adding something extra to your boyfriend’s proposal will help keep the surprise.If the proposal is a surprise, this can be even nicer.Your boyfriend may be expecting the proposal if you agreed to get engaged within a certain time frame.It’s possible that your boyfriend dreamed of getting engaged on a romantic vacation.Don’t propose on the trip, but take him on a trip.Go ahead and ask the question on the plane.Maybe your boyfriend wants to propose to you at the coffee shop where you first met.Surprise him by having a group of friends meet the two of you there holding a sign that says, “Will You Marry Me?”
Step 4: Pick a place.
Think about where you want to propose.You can find a place that’s meaningful for both of you if you think about what your boyfriend would want.Where was it when the two of you were there?In a couple of words, you can define your boyfriend, such as traveler, adventurer, romantic, philosopher, etc.This can help you narrow down your options to something that is meaningful to him.Would your boyfriend be interested in a proposal?If he wants a private proposal, consider a special place.If you want to propose at home, you can use candles and photographs of the two of you.There is a secluded hiking trail where you’ve gone on hiking dates.Think about public places you both enjoy if your boyfriend doesn’t mind a public proposal.The coffee shop is where you had your first date.If your boyfriend wants to propose to you in front of friends and family, ask him to marry you at a dinner party with friends.
Step 5: You should choose the right time.
Think about important dates.You can choose a significant date for the two of you.You can propose to him on his birthday or anniversary.You can pick a date that makes sense for your future plans.If you want to get engaged by his cousin’s wedding in March, you should propose in January or February.If you want a memorable date, try to think of a unique one.Choose another significant date instead of choosing your anniversary.On the anniversary of when you adopted a kitten, propose to him.
Step 6: If you want a ring, think about it.
Do you think your boyfriend would like an engagement ring?You can find a ring in your boyfriend’s size if you think he would like one.Many people choose another item to symbolize the proposal if you don’t want a ring.You can give him a gift such as a watch or another piece of jewelry.If you can think of a gift he would really appreciate, such as a musical instrument he’s always wanted, go for it.The gift can be used to propose.If you want to ask if you will marry me, tape a sign.You got him on a guitar.
Step 7: Take your boyfriend’s feelings into account.
Men propose to women with rings.Women should wait and men should propose when they’re ready, but it’s a bad idea to break this tradition.You’re breaking tradition if you propose to a man.How much does your boyfriend care about you taking the lead?Many people worry that they will steal their boyfriend’s thunder or force him into something.It is possible to propose to your boyfriend if he is ready to get married.Bring up the issue with your boyfriend’s family if they are more traditional.Ask your boyfriend if he approves of women proposing to him.He has an attitude about gender roles and whether he is more traditional or open-minded about proposing.
Step 8: How to adjust the custom is something to think about.
A traditional narrative is followed by an engagement.A man proposes to a woman with a ring.If you’re in a same sex couple, you don’t have as many customs and traditions.Think about how you can make things work for you.Getting a man a ring is fine.The tradition of one knee proposal with a ring is available if you choose something cut in his style.Some men don’t like jewelry.You can ask him without an object, or you can present him with another object.There are less expectations in a non-traditional proposal.This is a positive rather than a negative.You can propose on your own terms.
Step 9: Accept that you may be nervous.
People get nervous before they propose.There is an added layer of anxiety when you break custom or tradition.You will be a little uneasy going into the proposal.Take a moment to remember why you decided to keep yourself calm.If your boyfriend’s family is making you nervous, remind yourself of how happy you will be after the proposal.This is about the two of you deciding to spend the rest of your lives together, and when you two are alone enjoying your engagement there will be little judgement or stigma attached.Rehearse what you want to say several times and remember to breathe when you say it.
Step 10: Prepare for many reactions.
There will be many reactions to a proposal.Reactions may be even more varied with a non-traditional proposal.Some people will be surprised by your proposal.Others will applaud you for breaking tradition.Prepare for a lot of comments when you announce your engagement.There are more opinions on non-traditional proposals than there are on traditional ones.Some opinions are positive, as many enjoy it when others break tradition, but other comments will be confused and judgmental.Try to remember that you made the right decision for yourself and your boyfriend.Some comments may be offensive.If you’re in a same sex relationship, people may think the person who proposed is more masculine.Correct people if they say something bad.My boyfriend and I are equal partners.I had a great idea for a proposal.Prepare for what you might say if someone makes you feel bad.If someone hurts you, this will make you feel more confident.You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone.You can give short answers or ignore rude comments.
Step 11: The decision is yours to make.
For the sake of your relationship, you made the decision.You did what was best for you and your boyfriend.The two of you will spend the rest of your lives together.That matters more than any judgement you receive.
Step 12: The scene should be set.
Think about how you want things to look.Talk to a friend to make sure you don’t overlook anything.It’s a good idea to ask your friends for help with the proposal.Set the scene as much as you can if you have control over it.You can get things close to your vision, but you can’t control everything.It’s easy to propose at home.Light candles and dim the lights.Pictures of you and your boyfriend can be put up as decorations.You have less control over the scene if you propose publicly.There are some things you can do to get the scene you want.Hike at the right time of day so you can reach your destination as the sun is setting.If you’re going to propose at a restaurant or coffee shop, make sure you get the right table.
Step 13: If you’re using a ring, introduce it.
If you propose with a ring or another object, find a way to introduce it.When you’re ready, hide the ring in your pocket or purse and lift the box.You can get a ring in a drink or food item at a restaurant or coffee shop.Depending on what they are, other items can be introduced in a creative way.If you wanted to propose to your boyfriend with a nice watch, you could have him close his eyes and then slip it on his wrist.Think of a fun way to present a ring.Clues can be left around your home to lead him to the ring.
Step 14: Ask the question.
It’s possible to keep things simple.Tell him how much you love him by looking in his eyes.Say something like, “Do you want to marry me?”People prefer to propose in a letter.You can send a love letter to him.Will you marry me?It was written at the end.
Step 15: Allow a rejection to be handled gracefully.
Things don’t go as planned sometimes.Do not see this as the end of the relationship if your boyfriend declines.Some of the reasons someone may not want to get married may be related to practical concerns.Your boyfriend might want to wait until you’re more financially stable to marry.If he says no, calmly talk it out and figure out what to do next.You don’t need to speak immediately.It is possible to take some time for yourself.It’s important to come back to the conversation eventually.You would rather have your boyfriend marry you when he’s ready than when you’re happy.He should think about it first to make sure he wants it.
Step 16: Tell a few friends.
It’s helpful to have people with you.If you need someone to help you get your boyfriend to the right location, this is important.If you want to keep a surprise, reduce the amount of people you tell.Tell a small group of friends who you know can keep a secret.
Step 17: Keep him occupied.
Your boyfriend shouldn’t expect anything in the weeks leading up to your proposal.You should find ways to keep your boyfriend busy so he doesn’t notice that you’re planning something.Encourage him to try new things.If it doesn’t interfere with your plans, you can do new things with him.If you want to start a new workout routine, you can take a cooking class.Have your friends help you.Ask your friends if they will take your boyfriend out more often in the weeks leading up to the proposal.
Step 18: Excuses are ready.
Your boyfriend may be able to sense something is not right.Prepare to tell stories to quell his suspicions.There are ways to excuse unusual behavior.Have your friends take you on a shopping trip if you’re out shopping for rings.
Step 19: Don’t plan for a long time.
How long you plan the event should be minimized.Your boyfriend will be more likely to suspect something is going on if you spend more time planning the event.You should only plan the event for a week or two.This will help keep things calm.A proposal should be fun.