How To Tolerate a Coworker You Cannot Stand

Your workplace is full of people who are all different.At least one of your coworkers will be someone you can’t get along with.You have to learn how to deal with your coworkers because you can’t pick who they are.There are many ways to make your life at work easier.

Step 1: You should change your reaction.

It is easy to respond emotionally to someone who is annoying.Getting emotional about a coworker is not going to help the situation.It is possible that an emotional reaction will make the situation worse.The only person you have control over is you.If your coworker does something that is annoying, give yourself time to react.How do you feel?What is happening in your mind?What do you do?What event caused this reaction?When you have a chance to think about how you respond to your coworker, consider whether that reaction is worth it.Is your coworker worth the added stress that comes with being upset?Not likely.Change your reactions to your coworker with a system.You can count to 10 or take a minute and breathe deeply.It is possible that you need to close your eyes and visualize your happy place.Your system will become easier to use as time goes on.

Step 2: Don’t work with a coworker.

You don’t have to work with someone who is annoys you.They are not in the same department if they sit at a desk near you.You never see them when you pass them in the hallway.If you have to tolerate or deal with this coworker, avoid them.

Step 3: Go to the point.

The longer you interact with them, the more annoying they become.You should keep your interactions short.Don’t bother with nice conversation starters or questions about the weekend, just get to the point.Once the interaction is over, allow your coworker to have the last word, then walk away.Don’t allow your coworker to take up too much of your time.

Step 4: You should keep things to yourself.

Gossiping at work happens a lot.You and your coworkers have gossiped about each other.Gossip is not harmful.Other gossip can be upsetting, but they can get that elevator to work property.Susan slept with her boss.When someone speaks negatively about a coworker, it is one of the most damaging gossips.You don’t want to be the one gossiping about your coworkers.It makes you feel better if you talk to someone about the issues at work.If you want to discuss a coworker’s behavior, talk to someone who doesn’t work with you.

Step 5: Why does your coworker annoy you?

It is possible that they are the problem, and not someone else.Is it possible that your coworkers annoy you because of something beyond their control?Are you jealous that they have a better job, get paid more, or sit near the window?Is it possible that you are interpreting your unhappiness about a situation as dislike or annoyance?

Step 6: Put up with your coworker.

You are not going to care if your coworker does something that is annoying.Not caring means you ignore your coworker’s behavior, or you don’t allow yourself to react to the behavior anymore.You accept the behavior for what it is and move on.This type of response is hard to do because you have to let go.It is not possible to push your frustration about the behavior to the back of your mind.Doing this will make you feel worse.

Step 7: The subject can be changed.

You don’t have to talk about your personal life at work.You probably have at least one coworker who likes to pry.These coworkers may be able to give you advice on everything from where to go on vacation to how to parent your children.Simply changing the subject is the best approach for this type of coworker.

Step 8: Say no.

Some coworkers want to be helpful and will ask if you need help with a task.Other coworkers may ask if you need help with a task because it will make them look good, or you will owe them a favour at some point in the future.They are asking because they have a plan.You need to say no in these situations.The kind of help these coworkers are offering is not what you need.

Step 9: Don’t speak to your coworker.

If your coworker is trying to humiliate you or putting you down, chances are they are lying.You should confront your coworker instead of ignoring them.Explain the reasoning behind the statements being made to your coworker.There is no logic or truth behind the statements made by your coworker.Your coworker will soon realize that picking on you is pointless.

Step 10: Play to your coworker.

Some of your coworkers are smarter than you.They may take every opportunity to make sure you are aware of it.Coworkers like this are unlikely to agree with the ideas you come up with.Explain the idea in the form of one or more questions, instead of expressing it.Discuss the problem with your coworker.Let your coworker tell you a solution to the problem.An idea that came from you will be presented by your coworker.

Step 11: Pick out your coworker’s lack of knowledge.

People who think they are smarter than you are most likely your coworkers.These coworkers are usually useless and have bad decisions.When you need to work with someone like this, behave nicely enough that your coworker thinks you are cooperative, but then ask questions that highlight the holes in their logic.The key is to make it appear as though you are not mean.The purpose is not to humiliate your coworker, but to help them understand you see through the deception.

Step 12: Allow your coworker to cool down.

It’s better not to try because coworkers with tempers who scream and shout are impossible to deal with when angry.Walk away.On the one hand, you don’t deserve to be treated that way, and on the other, nothing useful will come of it.After a cooling off period, approach your coworker again.If this type of reaction is unusual for your coworker, there may be a personal problem causing it.Your coworker can save face by not saying something that may be regretted later if you give them the opportunity to cool off.

Step 13: Set expectations.

Some coworkers try to please everyone by saying yes to everything.They don’t understand the limits of their abilities and are afraid to admit them.They may be nice and helpful, but if you think about it, they never accomplished anything.When someone doesn’t like them, these coworkers get upset and need constant approval.In order to be honest, they need a comfortable and open work environment.Don’t be shy when trying to get a commitment from a coworker.A detailed plan is written down.A specific timetable is agreed upon.Follow-up with a confirmation email.If the timelines are not met, there will be consequences.

Step 14: Help your coworker make a decision.

Some coworkers are annoying because they can’t make a decision to save their lives.They go back and forth between options.When dealing with coworkers like this, the best option is to gently push them towards a specific option and remind them that their decision is a good one.If you give them confidence, they will be able to make a decision.One way to lead a coworker towards a specific outcome is to explain all possible options and wait to see which option appeals most to your coworker.Once you know which option is preferred, use your influence to build your coworkers confidence in that option.You can explain all possible options but include an opinion as to which option is the best.You can give more evidence as to why you think that option is the best for you and your coworker.

Step 15: The positive should be identified.

Negative coworkers can bring a whole team down with them, and can be very depressing to work with.These coworkers are not going to see the positive in any situation.Agree with these coworkers instead of arguing with them.Some additional negative aspects should be pointed out when they point them out.You will point out so many negatives that the only other options are positives.The reverse psychology method is used.

Step 16: Questions can be open-ended.

Some coworkers seem to have no emotion, and their body language is so silent you don’t know what they’re thinking.Sometimes coworkers in this category don’t say much when asked a question or opinion, which can be a problem if you need that answer or decision in order to do your work.Approach these types of coworkers with open-ended questions.Do not ask them questions that will only require a yes or no answer.