How To Stop Loving a Guy

It is difficult to break up.It’s more difficult when you’re still thinking of the other person.It’s important to get your thoughts out of your mind if you see something that reminds you of him.

Step 1: You should stop contacting your ex.

Picking up the phone to call him might be difficult if he is always on your mind.The longer you don’t talk to him, the easier it will become.You could try to change his name in your contacts list to remind you not to call.Don’t text him or send him an email.If you don’t want to re-read your text messages and emails, consider wiping them out.If you have a strong desire to call him, then you may want to talk to a friend about it.You will have a chance to look at why you want to call and your friend will give you an objective perspective on what you should probably not do.

Step 2: Don’t keep old pictures from the relationship.

If you dated this guy for a while, you may have some things lying around that remind you of him.Maybe his toothbrush is still in the bathroom.Get rid of the reminders.Donate old clothes that belonged to him.You might be able to keep yourself from thinking about him if you get rid of the things that make you think of him.You can either leave it on his front step or put it in a box and mail it back to him.In the process of giving things back to him, don’t make contact with him.If you have things that remind you of him, get rid of them.If you have photos of him, get rid of them to get over him.

Step 3: Don’t follow him on social media.

His posts should not be on your social media feeds.If you don’t want to completely remove him from your friends list, you can choose to ignore his posts until you are strong enough to see them again.Seeing his posts will make you think of him more, and it will be difficult to let him go.Take a break from social media.You don’t want to be bombarded with status updates and photos about other couples that might make you think about the guy you’re trying to get over.It could be helpful to take a break from social media.

Step 4: You can find healthy ways to grieve.

It is a painful part of the process to grieve the loss of a relationship.It is possible to distract yourself from the pain of the break up.You can feel the pain of the break up.Tell your friends how you feel if you cry.You may feel sadness, resentment, anger, and fear after a break up.Talking to people who care about you and who you can trust will let you know how you are feeling.It will help you to move on if you feel your emotions.How you are feeling can be written about.You can list five things that you are grateful for in a daily journal.It is possible to feel happier by practicing gratitude.This is an effective way to start to feel better after a break up.The painful details of the break up should not be relived.Take some time each day for as long as you need to allow yourself to feel your feelings, such as 20 to 30 minutes per day.It’s possible to limit your grieving time by setting a timer.Meeting a friend for coffee, going for a walk, or engaging in a favorite hobby are things you can do after your grieving time is over.

Step 5: It’s a good idea to avoid idealizing the relationship.

It is easy to ignore the not-so-great aspects of a relationship when it is over.Don’t idealize the relationship in this way.As you reflect on the relationship and acknowledge the bad along with the good, try to be realistic.It is possible that this will make it easier to move on.It is possible to get out of an idealizing mode by reflecting on some of the flaws in your relationship.If you often disagreed on movies and this caused problems, then your different tastes may have been one of the reasons for the break up.You may have had a hard time trusting him when he was out with his friends, so you text him to deal with your worry.Don’t worry about the negative aspects of your relationship.Try to be thankful that you won’t have to deal with the negative aspects of the relationship anymore.

Step 6: What do you want your future to look like?

Start looking at what you want your future to look like instead of focusing on what your ex wants.Allow yourself to get excited about your hopes, dreams, and goals by identifying them.What is your dream job?Would you like a promotion or a new job?Do you want to go back to school to get a new job?What should you do to start that process?Do you need to complete an application?Would you like to visit a local college?Losing weight, improving self-esteem, and developing a spiritual practice are some of the personal wellness goals.Give yourself permission to dream about what you want your life to look like and then identify some things you can do to move in that direction.

Step 7: You should do something for yourself.

Think of things that make you feel good, like going shopping for new clothes or getting a new haircut.If you want to get your mind off of the guy, go out and do that.Giving yourself a new look, buying something new to wear, taking a day off, or just listening to your favorite music can all help you de-stress.It’s possible to take a little overnight trip if you have the time and money.Staying over at a friend’s house doesn’t have to be far away.It will get you out of your comfort zone, which is where you are most likely to dwell on the guy you’re trying to get over.

Step 8: Don’t stop being active.

A good way to keep yourself busy is by exercising.If you want to get your aggression out on a punching bag, instead of sitting around and dwelling, go out for a walk, jog, or swim.It will also distract you from thinking of the guy.It is also possible to do yoga.It helps to focus on yourself and your breathing, as well as working on your physical health.

Step 9: Don’t blame yourself for the relationship ending.

You might be tempted to look at what caused the relationship to end.It won’t change anything if you do this, and it may make you feel worse.You cannot go back in time and change the things you said or did.Try to remember that this is not your fault, instead of focusing on what you did or what he did.Some people are not compatible.It’s important to find someone you can communicate with and someone who can meet your needs as well.

Step 10: Give yourself time to be alone.

Take some time to be your own person.Don’t move onto another one until you feel like you’ve gotten over this guy.You run the risk of your unresolved feelings interfering with a new relationship if you move into another relationship before you are ready.Instead of going out on dates, go out with your friends.You can enjoy your time as a single person if you do things in groups.

Step 11: You should date other people when you are ready.

You can go on a date or two just for fun, even if you aren’t getting into another relationship right away.It will distract you from thinking about the guy you are trying to get over if you flirt with new people.Keep things simple and have fun with it.If you are feeling low after the loss of a relationship, flirting can help you boost your self-confidence.Helping yourself move forward is a good way to make yourself feel good.

Step 12: There are good things about life without him.

There were a lot of good things about your life before he came along.Look ahead to the good things you have in the future, regardless of his presence in your life.It is possible to make an actual list of all the good things in your life.If you write a list, keep it in a place where you can see it often, like on the fridge or in the dash of your car.It will be visible if you need to be reminded of the good in your life.

Step 13: Consider talking to a counselor.

It is possible to seek the help of a professional if you are having trouble moving on.If you speak to a therapist or counselor, they may have new ideas or suggestions to help you move forward.You can find a provider through an online search.There are counselors nearby that specialize in relationships.College students can get counseling services for free or for a small fee.You should check with your student services office.