How To Resist the Urge to Call Your Ex

You might miss your ex and be tempted to contact him or her, or you might be resentful and feel the urge to vent your frustration after a bad break up.It’s never a good idea to have contact with your ex while you’re still getting over the break up.If you give each other time and space, you can see if there’s any chance for friendship in the future.It’s a good idea to cut ties and avoid each other while you heal.

Step 1: Remove your ex’s phone number from your contacts list.

Some people reach out to their exes in a moment of weakness, while others try to reignite their romantic interest.Attempts at contacting your ex will only dredge up painful feelings for you and prolong the inevitable.One or both of you were fundamentally unhappy when you broke up, and that won’t change.If your ex’s phone number was saved on your cellphone, you should have deleted his/her contact information.If you have written down your ex’s phone number in a physical copy, wipe it out, or discard it.Don’t allow your ex to contact you on your cellphone.This can be accomplished by going into settings, clicking on privacy, and blocking the number of your ex, though the exact method will vary depending on the type of phone you have.If you meet legal drinking age, you should not text or call your ex if you plan on drinking alcohol.

Step 2: Don’t follow your ex on social media.

Some people can remain friends with an ex.If you don’t think you can be friends without having romantic feelings for him/her, it may be best to cut off all ties.If you have deleted your ex’s phone number, you may still be able to send private messages to him.Unfriending/unfollowing your ex on social media will help remove temptation to contact them.It can give you privacy while you heal from the break up.If you remain friends on social media, you will have to see who that person is in a relationship with in the future.Feelings of longing may be created by being reminded of your time together.Once you’ve gotten over the break up, you can always send your ex a friend request or follow him/her in the future.It’s best to cut that individual out for the time being if you’re feeling vulnerable.

Step 3: It’s a good idea to distance yourself from your friends for a while.

You don’t need to do this, but some people might find it useful to keep in touch while the break up is still fresh.It’s best to create a little space until you’ve healed and moved on, if you think you might be tempted to ask a mutual friend to “report” on your ex.Let your friends know what you’re doing.If you don’t communicate with them, they may be concerned that you’ve decided not to be friends.Ask your friends to stop bringing up your ex until you’ve healed from the break up.Don’t attend social events where your ex may be present.If your friends host a party or invite you to an event, ask them in advance if your ex will be there.

Step 4: Look for a sense of closure.

Accepting that the relationship is over is the best way to heal after a break up.If you were rejected, it’s important to know that it could never work out.It will only prolong the suffering and emotional vulnerability you are feeling if you call or text your ex.The feelings of pain and sadness are normal.If you convince yourself that you’ve lost your true love, it will only delay your healing.It’s okay to be alone for a while.Once you take time for yourself, you’ll be ready to begin an even better relationship with someone new, and you can find other exciting ways to fill your time.If you’re still thinking about your ex, you haven’t found a solution yet.It’s important that you don’t contact, see, or even accidentally run into your ex during this time in order to heal and move on.

Step 5: It’s important to spend as much time with friends and family as possible.

If you’re coming out of a long-term relationship, especially with someone you shared a house with, being alone may feel frightening.If you want to get over your ex, you need to be around other people as often as possible.If you haven’t heard from them in a while, reach out to your friends and family.The important thing is not to be alone if you have to initiate the planning.If you want to try something out with a friend, try taking up a new hobby or enroll in a class.A good bonding experience can be had between you and your friend.

Step 6: If you want to get rid of sentimental reminders, put them away.

A lot of physical objects remind you of your ex after a long relationship.Being reminded of your past relationship can be a constant reminder of these small gifts and shared objects.Getting rid of objects that remind you of your ex can make you feel less compelled to reach out to him after a break up.Take anything that reminds you of the other person and put it in a box.It’s best to keep the things that he/she left behind out of sight.If you can’t keep these reminders in your home, throw them in the trash.It’s a good idea to have a mutual friend return any belongings that your ex may want back.

Step 7: You can stop thinking about your ex by changing your life.

It can be difficult to move on from a break up.Even after removing the sentimental reminders of your ex, you may find yourself thinking about him or her on a regular basis, and that may give you the urge to contact him.If you’re having a hard time moving past the break up, you may want to make some changes to your life.If you share a house or apartment, it’s a good idea to find a new place in a different neighborhood.If you have worked together before, look for a new job.If you don’t want to leave your job but you still work together and share space, ask your boss if you can change desks to be closer to one another.There are other ways to change up your routine.If you can, make subtle changes in your life and forget about your ex.

Step 8: You should apologize for any part you played in the break up.

Whether you were the person who initiated the break up or the one who broke up with you, you may be carrying some guilt.In order to heal, it’s important to accept the past and move on.No matter how guilty you may feel, your ex played a role in the downfall of things.Learning how to love yourself and forgive yourself is part of moving on.Once you’ve forgiven yourself, you may be able to forgive your ex as well.

Step 9: Consider if your ex has hurt you.

Every relationship has ups and downs.Sometimes things are said that shouldn’t have been said.If your partner has cheated on you, abused you or neglected you in your relationship, there’s a good chance that you won’t be friends with that person.Toxic people who may hurt you in the future should be removed from your life.It’s best for you to get over that ex as well as your general mental health and wellbeing.

Step 10: Do you want to be friends without a relationship?

Some people feel an attraction towards another person.It can make friendship difficult if the attraction is physical or emotional.You need to accept the fact that you can’t maintain a friendship with that person if you’re not able to talk to them or be in the same room with them.Cut off all ties completely if you’re having trouble moving on.It’s a good idea to distract yourself when you’re thinking about your ex.Go out with friends, watch TV, or find other ways to get out of that mindset.

Step 11: Determine how long time has passed.

It takes time and distance to be friends after a break up.You can’t transition from a relationship to a friendship without time to process and heal.If you think you can get over the break up and become friends with your ex, you need to think about how long you’ve been with that person.In the wake of a break up, most people feel sad, lonely, and betrayed.These feelings will pass with time.There isn’t a universal waiting period for getting over a relationship.For some people it can happen in a week or two, while for others it may take months to get over an ex.Not enough time has passed for you to feel any kind of resentment towards your ex.You may be ready to transition to a friendship if you can think about your ex and not get angry about the break up.You may need to cut your losses if this doesn’t happen.