Break ups are a part of life.After a break up, many people feel sad, lonely, and depressed.A break up can be a great catalyst for reinventing yourself.Taking a break can be a great way to heal and improve your life.
Step 1: Don’t be aggressive with yourself.
It is very common for women to blame themselves after a break up.Try to be positive and kind to yourself instead of piling guilt on top of the negative vibes.You don’t want to get your partner back or prove something to the rest of the world, but to be yourself.The negative self-talk needs to be cut out.Instead of dwelling on your failures and what you could have done differently, comfort yourself as if you were your best friend.Tell yourself you did what you could and that you learned from the experience.If you’re having a hard time getting through your days, try saying something in the mirror.It may sound silly, but telling yourself that you are worthy, beautiful, and strong can help reset your thinking and encourage a more positive outlook.Do you want to set daily goals for yourself?One goal could be to reach out to a friend you haven’t talked to in a while, or to help your parents or roommate cook dinner to get your mind off of your break up.Positive reminders for you throughout the day.You can set a reminder on your phone that says something positive like “I am defined by my actions, not my boyfriend or lack of thereof.”
Step 2: It’s a good idea to eat healthy.
Taking care of your physical health is of paramount importance, especially when the break up happened recently, because of the extreme stress caused by it.You may have trouble sleeping, or have no desire to eat.Do your best to maintain as many healthy routines as you can.If you want to maintain a healthy diet, you should eat lots of fruits and vegetables.This will make you feel better.Eating healthy doesn’t mean giving up all your treats.If you don’t want to eat your feelings in the form of a gallon of ice cream, try spooning out a small amount into a separate bowl and enjoying it slowly.If you binge eat, you will end up feeling worse about yourself in the long run.
Step 3: Exercise.
Any form of exercise, whether it be yoga or just running around the block for fifteen minutes, can offset some of the anxiety and sadness you experience through an increase of dopamine and other feel-good chemicals in the brain.A break up can be a good excuse to try out a new activity, like yoga or pole dancing, in a supportive and upbeat community.You might not feel like leaving the house.Try to do some light stretches or walk around the block until you feel better.Every little step is important.Losing yourself in a new workout activity or sport can be a great way to distract yourself from the negative emotions you are processing, but can also contribute to a fitter, stronger body which could improve your confidence.If you don’t feel like walking for a while, sit outside.Take a break from the sun and breathe in the fresh air.
Step 4: Take a moment to reflect on your purpose.
It is good to take some time to reflect on your life after a relationship has ended.This can be a great opportunity to reflect on your hopes, goals, and dreams, what you ultimately see as your own purpose in life, no matter how in love you were with the person.It is a good time to start if you do not have any concrete goals.If you already have some goals, such as getting A’s in school, consider what you can do on a regular basis to get to that point.Coming up with regular to-do lists can help you get back into shape after a break up trauma.When we are in a relationship, we lose track of our goals.If this was the case for you, try to keep sight of your goals and think of them as an umbrella to shelter yourself from disappointment.If you put your hopes on yourself and work towards your goals in a concrete way, you will be more likely to get in touch with people who are better suited to you.
Step 5: Take a moment to reflect on what you want.
Re-centering your focus on your life and how you present yourself to the world is what reinventing yourself is all about.For some, reinventing yourself may be about getting on track with your life goals, while for others, physical alterations are more important.If possible, have a friend tag along with you.Not only will you have more fun, you will also get some friendly guidance that will help steer you away from potentially regrettable decisions.If you and your ex had a shared social group, you should reach out to a friend that is not in that group and is closer to you.You don’t want anyone to be in a position of choosing sides.
Step 6: Treat yourself.
Treat yourself to a massage, facial, or mani-pedicure if you want to relax and take care of your body.Purchase yourself a new perfume or indulge in your favorite candy if spa treatments aren’t your thing.You can still get the same benefits if you do facials or mani-pedis at home.It can help lift your spirits if you invite a friend over.
Step 7: It’s a good idea to get a new hairstyle or wardrobe change.
Doing so will increase your self confidence and help you adjust to your life after a break up.Don’t despair if you cannot afford a new hairstyle or clothes.If you want to dye your hair yourself, you can always check out thrift stores.Even a small change in your hair style can have a big impact on how you feel about yourself.Change it up if you usually wear a signature perfume.If you keep wearing a certain scent, it may remind you of your ex and bring you down.Buying a new perfume is a great way to treat yourself, and could also help you start your new life.
Step 8: The inner should be changed, not just the outer.
The concept of a makeover should be applied to your personality and emotional state as well, as people usually focus on the outward changes in appearance.Take some time to think about what you want to change about yourself and how you can do it.Many people suffer from low self-confidence after a break up.Changing your body posture to communicate confidence is one way to boost your confidence.
Step 9: You can connect with what you love.
Many people give up activities they used to love when they are in a romantic relationship.Now that you are single, take the time to read your favorite books, get back into your sport, or spend more time with your girlfriends.
Step 10: Get rid of things that are holding you back.
Go through your belongings and get rid of things that don’t serve a purpose other than to remind you of the pain of a lost relationship.You must let go of the relationship you were in.If you are going to be friends, you should have a time out period so that things don’t get out of hand.Do your best to forget about your ex if the break up ended badly.
Step 11: Try something new.
It’s a good time to start a new hobby after a break up.You can use the time you spent with your ex to do what you want.If there is anything you have ever wanted to do, but never found the time or drive to act on it, consider.Some women take this as a chance to make a career or education change.If you have always secretly wanted to finish your degree or apply for a job abroad, then take the break up as an opportunity to do it.You can volunteer in your community.It could be as simple as picking up trash on the beach or serving soup in a soup kitchen.Ask your neighbors what opportunities are out there.It has been shown that volunteering improves your mood and self-confidence.It doesn’t have to be dramatic to try something new.Getting through a stack of classics or taking an online course can be just as satisfying for some women.
Step 12: Enjoy the time and get out.
It is important to not get stuck in a rut after a break up.It is important to go out and do fun things.Remember, at the end of the day, you are an individual, so get out there and live your life.Don’t go out of control.During grieving periods, many people resort to harmful or self-destructive behaviors, such as drinking too much or acting out.Do emotional check-ins to avoid this.If you make plans to meet at a bar with friends but are really only looking forward to the drinks, you should examine where that desire is coming from and plan to do something else with your friends, or ask them to monitor how much you drink so that you don’t lose.Don’t go to parties that your ex is likely to attend.You need a long period of time apart to heal and move on.If you have already said yes to a party and only find out later that your ex will be there, cancel and make new plans for the evening.
Step 13: Look for the right partner.
Take what you have learned from your last relationship and carry it with you, because this step may be further down the line.What kind of partner are you looking for and what do you have to offer them?Remember, you and your ex broke up for a reason and part of reinventing yourself is to have a happier, more fulfilling life so look for qualities in other people that will make that happen.