It can be hard to deal with your inner critic, and it can hold you back from the life you want.The part of your personality that tells you you aren’t good enough is your inner critic.This can sometimes help you improve, but it can also keep you stuck in a rut.You can change what your inner critic is telling you by getting to the root of it.You can turn your critic into an ally.
Step 1: Your inner critic uses limiting beliefs, so write them down.
Your inner critic uses a lot of messages.This will help you analyze what your inner critic is saying so that you can address the fear and pain behind it.You might notice that people say things like, “I’m so stupid, I’ll fail like always.”
Step 2: Remember the person who told you about yourself.
In most cases, your inner critic picks up harmful messages from people you know.These thoughts do not come from you.You have to figure out where you got these thoughts so you can separate them from your beliefs about yourself.Where did I first hear these words?Which people do I associate with?What made me feel this way?
Step 3: Pick out the fears that your critic is protecting you from.
Your inner critic is trying to protect you from pain.Your inner critic is afraid of certain experiences because of something in your past.Understanding where the pain is coming from can help you overcome it.To figure out what you’re afraid of, look for the fears behind your critic’s comments.If I don’t listen to my inner critic, what will happen?If my inner critic stops talking to me, what will happen?Your inner critic tells you that you are stupid.Do you fear that you will never pass an advanced math class?You might be afraid of being yelled at by a parent, or you might worry about disappointing your teacher.
Step 4: Accept your inner critic’s intentions.
It might seem like a contradiction, but your inner critic is trying to help you.Its goal is to keep you safe, even though it can hold you back from reaching your full potential.It has a positive intention and you can get benefits from it.The blow from its comments can be softened by this.Think of how your critic has helped you.It’s possible that your inner critic is trying to get you to study harder so you don’t get yelled at.It is possible that it is trying to help you get love from your parents.
Step 5: Journaling can be used to reflect on what your critic says.
Journaling is a great way to keep track of your thoughts and feelings.Allow yourself to write down all of your feelings and thoughts.Take a look at where these feelings come from and why you are having them.Think about what you wrote and try to find an answer.In the evening before bed, write in your journal.Patterns and trends can be used to react to your circumstances.When you engage in self-criticism and when you’re able to silence your inner critic, take note.
Step 6: Challenge your critic with the truth.
Your inner critic may be operating on fear and not truth.You may have misinterpreted events in the past.You can find the truth in what happened if you see it from a different angle.Which parts of my inner critic’s comments aren’t true?What is my truth?What would this look like to an outsider?
Step 7: You should label your thoughts as thoughts and not truths.
Don’t accept everything you think is true because they are just perception.If you observe your thoughts, ask yourself if they are true.When your inner voice criticizes you, this can help you separate fact from fiction.When I try my hardest, I am already a success.
Step 8: If you are struggling or have a traumatic past, talk to a therapist.
It can be difficult to deal with an inner critic.Sometimes you have to face your past on your own.You can work with a therapist to help you understand what your inner critic is trying to say.They will help you change your thoughts.Ask your doctor to refer you to a therapist.Before you go, make sure you check your health insurance benefits.
Step 9: If you frame your inner critic’s comments, they’ll be supportive.
Look for a neutral or positive truth about what your inner critic is saying.Restate your inner critic’s statement with the deepest truth.Don’t let the fear of being your best self hold you back.You might say, “I’m really smart when it comes to my area of interest.” or “You’re too ugly to try out for a job.”I have a lot of training and experience that makes me a good choice for the role.
Step 10: What would you say to your friend in this situation?
Imagine that your friend comes to you upset and tells you that their inner critic is saying things to them.What would you say to comfort your friend?Say those things to yourself.If your friend came to you and said that you were a fraud at work, you would probably say that it was not true.You have all of the qualifications, because you have worked so hard to get this job.I met your coworkers and they seem to like you.You are likely to be meaner to yourself than to your best friend.You don’t deserve this kind of treatment.
Step 11: To overcome it, write a letter to your inner critic.
At the beginning of your letter, acknowledge that you understand what your inner critic is saying and where that fear came from.Your inner critic should be offered some compassion, like you are consoling a friend.Tell your inner critic what is true and how you changed the situation.List your strengths to make you feel more confident.If you write a letter, you can either tear it up or burn it.
Step 12: You can boost your confidence by focusing on your strengths.
Your perceived weaknesses are the focus of your inner critic.Don’t celebrate what’s great about you.This can help boost your confidence.Think of times in your life when you were proud of what you did.The incidences can be big or small.You can help a friend deal with a hardship or you can repair your bike on your own.Consider what the events reveal about you.List the nice things people have said about you.What have they said about you?What did you do well?Send an email to people you trust, asking them to tell you your strengths.Look for similarities between the different responses.