Babies and toddlers can go through phases where they prefer one parent over the other.It can be difficult to deal with this part of a child’s development.You don’t know how to connect with your child.To navigate a child’s preference of one parent over another, remind yourself that your feelings are valid.Sharing a hobby, game, storytime, or any low-stress activity can be ways to connect with your child.10 minutes a day can help build togetherness.
Step 1: The baby should be left with the parent.
Leave the left out parent alone with the baby when they prefer one parent over the other.The baby can interact with the other parent without being distracted by their preferred parent.The parent and baby can go to the park together.
Step 2: The bond between the parents should be encouraged.
If you want to help the other parent, talk about them in a positive way.When your child recognizes their unique strengths, they will warm up to the other parent.You can say, “I notice that my mom is really fun at tea party.”
Step 3: As a family, spend time together.
You can help your child grow closer to both parents by doing things together.Allow your child to see you interacting.Let them see that you are in love with one another.Show them you have a positive relationship if you are not.It is possible to eat meals together, play a game or read a story in 15 to 20 minutes.
Step 4: If your child doesn’t want to stay with the other parent, assure them.
A child might not want to stay with the other parent.If this happens, make sure your child knows that the other parent loves them very much and that they are safe with them.If your child won’t let the other parent tuck them in, tell them, “I notice you’re not ready to be tucked in by Dad right now.”We love you so much.Dad will be here when you are ready.This should come from the parent who is being rejected.
Step 5: Determine if one parent is doing all the work.
It’s possible that preference comes from how your child interacts with both parents.The child may be closer to the less strict parent if one parent does all the seemingly negative tasks.Discipline or negative tasks should be shared if this happens in your family.Discipline comes from both parents, and it is not a bad thing.
Step 6: The responsibility of taking care of the child should be shared.
An attachment can be developed for a child if one parent takes care of the child all day.The parent who takes care of their child is more likely to bond with them than the one who doesn’t.The other parent should be more involved in taking care of the child if this is the case.If one parent works more and doesn’t help with meals, baths, or bedtime, the child may prefer the parent who is around all the time.If you can, let the parent who works give the child a bath at night, read a story, or put them to bed.
Step 7: Play with your child.
Try to play with the other parent more if your baby prefers them.Get down on the floor and play a game with them instead of putting them in a walker or playpen.The child should lead the playing.If your child doesn’t like playing with you, you might want to get down on the ground and play alone.Try blowing bubbles with Legos or a bottle of bubbles.Your child may approach you and start playing with you.If your child is older, ask if you can join.You might say, “That tea party looks really fun.”Can I join?Can I swing?
Step 8: You should take your child with you.
If your child is a baby or toddler, you can take them with you.They can be a contributor or a helpers.Babies and toddlers will enjoy the stimulation of the new environment you have taken them to.You can take your baby to the mailbox or put them in a stroller when you walk the dog.Your toddler may like helping you take out the trash.
Step 9: The other parent can do some things.
Let your child help with some of the parenting tasks to warm up the other parent.Play games, read stories, or eat snacks for the other parent to do.The child can connect things they love with their parent.
Step 10: It’s a good idea to do something new with your child.
If your child doesn’t like you, do something new with them.This may be helping your child learn a new game, look at flowers in the spring, or move to solid food.You should talk to your child during these activities.The idea is to bond by doing something you both enjoy.
Step 11: This is just a phase.
It is common for children to have a preference for one parent or family member.Your child’s preference may be related to who they spend the most time with each day.If one parent stays home all day, the child may develop a preference for that parent due to being around them more than the other parent.
Step 12: Allow yourself to process your emotions.
If your child prefers their other parent to you, it can hurt your feelings, even if you know that it’s just a phase.It’s okay if it makes you sad.Ignore those feelings and pretend they’re not there.If you allow yourself to explore your feelings, you can show yourself kindness and compassion.It is possible to find the tools to process how you feel by taking that perspective.
Step 13: Take your frustration out on your baby.
You might be upset because your baby likes the other parent.Don’t project the anger onto your child.Let your child know that you are upset or hurt.Children absorb everything at a young age, so reacting with anger or other ways could have a negative effect on them.This could cause a bigger rift in your relationship.Love your child and stay positive.It won’t work on small children if you are upset or aggressive.Tell your child how much you love them.
Step 14: The child should not be emotionally manipulated.
Parents who don’t like their children may make them feel bad for preferring one parent.This can hurt the child as they grow up.You shouldn’t buy your child’s love.Try to fill the child’s emotional needs like the other parent.
Step 15: Talk to the other parent.
Not being the preferred parent alone is not something you should attempt to deal with.If they are your partner, talk to the other parent.This will help you not to feel resentment and bottle up your feelings.The other parent may feel overwhelmed because the baby is clinging to them and needs their attention constantly.
Step 16: Don’t be impatient.
It’s a common milestone for children to prefer one parent over the other.This can last for a while.The child will stop preferring one parent over the other eventually.Give your child the attention they need and keep loving them.
Step 17: Your child’s development is influenced by preferences.
Babies and toddlers prefer one parent over the other.This shows that they are learning to make their own decisions.When your child prefers one parent over the other, react calmly.Your child feels secure in your relationship if you mention the other parent.They know that they can come back to you with the same love and acceptance.
Step 18: Understand that there are different roles for parents.
Some children prefer one parent over the other.Some parents have different styles.How can you make your child more comfortable with you?Some children prefer one parent over another if they are hurt, for example.Children prefer some parents more than others.
Step 19: The ego should be kept in check.
It’s normal to have an ego, and it can help you make decisions based on how others see you.It can have a negative effect on you if your ego gets out of hand.If you place your child’s needs first and try to balance them with your ego, you may feel more confident about raising them.Try to remember that the most important thing is making sure you are meeting your child’s emotional, physical, and mental needs if you start to feel neglected.If you want to be a consistent parent, try to focus on how you can be present.