Your father thinks you are not normal.Some parents may not agree with the idea that autism is not a bad thing.You know for a fact that you are not on the spectrum.It’s hard to convince him of the truth.Well, you don’t have to worry because here is how you can do it.
Step 1: Ask your parents why they feel that way.
Listening closely will help you understand why they came to this conclusion.You can be ready to refute it if you understand it.What symptoms have you noticed in me?What kind of research have you done?
Step 2: Take some time to listen to what they have to say.
Where, exactly, could they be mistaken?Is there any truth to their words?Take some time to think about it.Is it possible that your symptoms are explained by something else?It’s possible that social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder, sensory processing disorder and generalized anxiety are related to autism.Some sources are unreliable.Anti-vaxxers and quacks are known to distort and invent facts, and there is an entire boycott movement against it.It is possible that your parents have read misinformation.
Step 3: It’s a good idea to research autism and its symptoms.
The diagnostic criteria and various articles describe the condition.If you want to know what non-autistics see in a person, read how they describe their brains.Difficulty with communication (understanding and/or speaking), trouble understanding what others are thinking, and upsetting them by accident are some of the symptoms.A few interests that are extremely passionate are reading long chapter books before learning to ride a bike.Loud noises are hurting you.
Step 4: It’s time to rid yourself of any myths.
If you give your parents inaccurate information, they will correct you and you will feel foolish.You can correct any misinformation they may have.People with an intellectual disability care a lot about others.Some of them don’t know how to show this in ways that other people understand.It is not a child’s disability.It is lifelong.There is no cure.White boys are not the only ones with the condition.People of all ages and genders can be affected by the condition.It is not an epidemic.The word “epidemic” is misleading and it isn’t contagious.Each person is different.Some need a lot of support, while others don’t know why they are different.They may have different symptoms.
Step 5: People on the spectrum describe their experiences.
Don’t relate to what you read as you notice.Keep an open mind.There’s a good chance you’re on the spectrum if you relate to most of the experiences.No one relates to every experience because each person is unique.
Step 6: There are conditions that could be mistaken for autism.
Spending more time on the ones that sound like you will help you research each one.If you have some of these, you should consider whether you might have one or more of them.It is characterized by fear around people.You might have a hard time talking to people you don’t think are safe.It is possible to make eye contact with safe people, but not others.It’s a movement disability.You might be clumsy, have a hard time in sports, and have trouble with fine motor skills.It distorts your senses.You might be under-sensitive.It can occur without it, but co-occurs with it.It is similar to shyness.You might be afraid of people, avoiding new situations for fear of humiliation, and have no friends or lovers.A personality trait is not a disorder.If you’re quiet because you enjoy solitude and thinking, but don’t have a lot of quirks, you might be an irritant.
Step 7: Consider the possibility that you are not normal.
You could be on the spectrum if you find yourself relating to a lot of the things you read.It is possible to have all of the common symptoms.It’s possible to not realize that you have a symptom until you’ve had a breakdown.It isn’t an insult.It wouldn’t mean that anything is wrong with you, or that you should be ashamed of your brain.It is possible to be diagnosed in teen or adult years.Some people have more obvious symptoms than others.
Step 8: You need to be certain that you aren’t autistic.
You aren’t going to argue effectively if you have doubts.Wait until you’re sure.
Step 9: Tell your parent that you want to talk about something important.
You can schedule the conversation for a later time if they are busy at the moment.Good times to talk are during a long car ride and after a scheduled event.
Step 10: Tell us about the research you’ve done.
It’s important to let your parent know that you’ve listened to them, taken their concerns seriously, and put thought into your conclusion.This makes you sound more convincing.I heard what you said about Asperger Syndrome.I researched it because I was confused.I read the criteria of the DSM and read what people with the condition had to say.
Step 11: Discuss why you think you’re not crazy.
The symptoms that you don’t relate to could be described by something else.I read about the experiences of people on the spectrum.I didn’t understand their confusion about social situations, meltdowns, or dislike of eye contact.I like meeting people and it makes me happy.It didn’t sound like me.I don’t feel dumb around people.I’m scared.They’re going to judge me.I don’t like eye contact with strangers or people who might judge me, so I look at my sister and friends in the eye.I researched social anxiety and found it to be close to my experiences.
Step 12: If all else fails, agree to see a specialist.
They can offer an educated and authoritative opinion, even though they aren’t perfect.Your parents are more likely to listen to you.Tell the specialist why you don’t agree with what your parents think about you.You can adapt the steps to provide evidence that you aren’t on the spectrum.If you recall anecdotes from your life, you can see how you don’t have certain symptoms.Your parents are surprised at how independent you are.Many therapists know how to deal with difficult people.The specialist can help convince your parents to listen.