Change doesn’t need to be a bad thing.”In order to change anything, you must first change yourself,” said a great man.If you are willing to work, you can make yourself different by changing yourself.
Step 1: All meaningful change must come from within.
No one will do it for you if you don’t trust yourself to change.Real change must be driven by your own desire to be better, feel better and have a positive outlook on life.You can get through changes unscathed if you love and trust yourself.Think of the big changes in your life.I wonder if they are really scary in hindsight.What did you do to handle the changes?What can you learn from them?
Step 2: Positive affirmation can be practiced.
Change is dependent on a positive outlook on life and the future.Before you can change, you need to change how you look at yourself.If you want to change your love life to become more open, you’re not going to get very far if you believe “I don’t deserve to be in love.”Replacing it with a positive one would be better.Remember that as you change, you’re not necessarily becoming a completely new person.You are revealing other aspects of yourself.
Step 3: Make change easier by taking care of your body and mind.
It will be easier to focus on changing yourself for the better if you are healthy and happy.Make sure you eat a balanced diet, get 7 – 8 hours of sleep a night, and do things you love to do to get rid of stress.
Step 4: Think about the behaviors or thoughts that you want to change.
Don’t get upset at your fault or judge yourself.You can look at your behaviors through a neutral lens and figure out what you want to change.You need to explore to find the reason you want to change.It will be easier to change if you have clear motives.Does this make me happy?What are the facts about this situation?Why do I want to change?What is my ultimate goal?
Step 5: A plan of action is needed.
Specific and goal-oriented is what this needs to be.Setting smaller, more manageable goals will make it easier to commit to your project.You might want to become less shy in your love life.The idea of changing your love life seems less daunting if you set small goals.Think about what you want in a partner.What attracts you?What doesn’t?Make a list.Think about what caused relationships to fail in the past.If you want to improve your chances at love, start going to the gym, clean up your house, or focus more on work.Make an online dating profile if you commit to going out to bars and social events at least once a week.For a casual date, ask one person out.No matter what the answer is, brush it off and keep trying.
Step 6: Before tackling large changes, start with small ones.
It will be hard to stop eating junk food if you are trying to cut it out.You can enjoy your early accomplishments if you cut things out periodically.You could start by eliminating soda from your diet.After a week or two, cut out pizza, candy, and so on.Making a schedule will keep you in check.You are more likely to quit if you write down that you are quitting pizza on April 20th.
Step 7: For each day, make up a mini-quote.
To make your change stick, what is the minimum you need to do each day?This is different from the long-term goals or plans because it puts you in a mindset to change every day.If you want to reform your love life, you might decide to have one extra conversation with a stranger each day, whether on the bus or at work.This will allow you to practice your goal without fear.The bar for you is set by your quota.You can do 10 push-ups a day, but not every day.
Step 8: You should keep your plans to yourself.
Conventional wisdom says that telling someone your goals makes you more likely to follow them.Study after study shows that people feel less motivated to work after they announce their plans.When working with a group, working on a goal together makes everyone work harder.Writing down your goals and motivation and keeping them to yourself is a great way to be public about your plans to change.One fun, simple exercise to do is to use a platform likePinterest to collect visual ideas of what you like or where you’d like to be.You will have a record to look back on.
Step 9: Take care of your life.
The things that are no longer relevant to your life are often stripped away in change.You can put your energy into things that make you happy and healthy.Think about what is not essential in your life.What activities make you unhappy?What projects or appointments do you put off?Is it possible to remove the stresses from your life?Think about small things, like cleaning out your email inbox, canceling your newspaper subscription, or opening up your schedule.You want to use your new free time to change for the better and make more time in your life to focus on yourself.
Step 10: It is not easy to change.
If change didn’t take time, everyone would be in constant change.To make sure your change sticks, you need to commit to it for a long time.You should know that you will fail, slide back into your own ways, and consider changing your mind.quitting your reformation at the first sign of trouble will prevent you from ever really changing.For your brain to develop strong new neural connections that last throughout your life, you need to work on your change for up to 4-5 months.When things get tough, keep your goal in mind.The destination is more important than the amount of time needed to get there.
Step 11: You can form a group of friends with your new habits.
If you have someone willing to work with you, it’s much easier to commit to a habit.You support each other when things get difficult.Search online for support groups and communities if you can’t find someone to join you.From quitting drugs to working on your artwork once a week, there are forums and meetings for everyone.You can quit smoking with a friend.You can motivate yourself at the gym by picking up an exercise partner.Send new chapters, poems, or ideas to a writing buddy once a week.Don’t feel bad if you seem skeptical about your transformation.People may feel self-conscious if you start stepping up your game.
Step 12: Don’t let your habit get in the way of working on it every single day.
If you don’t want to weight lift without having a rest day, there are some exceptions.It will become an automatic part of your life if you practice your habit more frequently.You can find small ways to practice.You can still get some exercise by going to the gym and jogging for 30 minutes.This works for bad habits as well.You make it harder to kick your bad habit by succumbing to it every day.Try to avoid temptation one day at a time.
Step 13: Every day you should practice your new habit at the same time.
Your body is amazing.When you repeat the activity at the same time and place every day, your brain and body begin to prepare for it, making it feel natural.Anyone trying to develop new habits can use this type of conditioning.routine is your friend when building habits.Go to the gym at the same time each week.Each evening, set aside a room or desk for study or work.
Step 14: Your habits should be linked to old routines.
You could say “every day when I get home, I will clean a room of the house” instead of “I will make my house cleaner.”You can also do this with bad habits.If you smoke outside of the break room at work, don’t go there because you might be tempted to light up a cigarette.
Step 15: The obstacles should be eliminated.
It is more difficult to quit smoking if you keep a pack of cigarettes in your back pocket.If you have healthy options with you at lunch, it will be easier to eat healthy.Think about how to eliminate the hurdles in your thought process.You could say, “Get rid of your cigarettes.”It’s a good idea to pack a lunch the night before work.If you exercise after work you will be less sweaty at your desk.You should bring a pencil and paper with you.
Step 16: There is no magic number of days needed to build a habit.
Conventional wisdom says it takes 21 days to build a habit.Different habits take different amounts of time to change.Researchers found that habits only become automatic after 66 days.It’s not your fault if you can’t make a habit, but you have to find the motivation to stick with it for a long time.It only makes a small difference if you miss a day or make a mistake, you have 66 more to go.The number of days it takes to reach the end goal is irrelevant.
Step 17: Take a picture of what you want to be.
Making a major life change, from ending a long-term relationship to changing careers, is usually terrifying because you don’t know what’s next.If you don’t take the time to figure out where you are going, you can be paralyzed.You don’t need to know everything, but you do need a vision for how you are going to change.What do you want to stop doing?What do you want to change?Where do you see yourself one year after making a change?What do you want to do with your time?
Step 18: There are ways to change your lifestyle.
You need to figure out how to get there once you have a good idea of where you are going.If you think of it in a different way, it becomes easier to change.Say you want to become a famous author.To make this change a reality, think of the steps that would lead to becoming a famous author.A book can be published.A literary agent can be found.A book can be written and edited.Every single day, write.Pick up ideas for books.You would start here if you don’t have an idea yet.It is time to write every day if you do.
Step 19: Save up.
It is easier to make a big change in life if you have a safety net.When you know that failure doesn’t mean the end of the world, you’re more likely to take a plunge.You can focus on changing your life instead of paying bills.Put a small percentage of your paycheck into a savings account.Having enough money to cover at least 6 months of living expenses is recommended by many financial advisors.
Step 20: Get educated.
It’s never a good idea to make a lifestyle change without knowing what you’re doing.If you want to start a new career, going back to school is often the best way to get on track, as the specific knowledge will prepare you for a life in the field you desire.Those who want to travel for a year or become an artist need to study to get the most out of their lifestyle change.Look up biographies of other people.They give valuable advice about what to expect when you change.Do you need equipment for your new change?Do you need to change locations?Do the negatives of your new lifestyle make you want to change anything?
Step 21: Get out of your old life quickly and respectfully.
Once you have decided to make a change and you are confident that it is time to start, you need to cut your ties.You can still see people from your old life.It means that you need to take some time away from the routines, habits, and lifestyle to change things.Don’t burn bridges with anger or cruel goodbyes.If you let people know that you are ready for a change, they will support you as you go through with it.
Step 22: Make your new change a reality every day.
If you ever expect to change, you need to commit to your new life completely.If you want to travel for a year, you need to get on a plane and leave the country.This can require daily discipline.If you want to be a famous author, you need to write every single day.Change is about choice.The choices you make will affect the change you want.