How To Be Honest Without Hurting People%27s Feelings

On a daily basis, people disagree about trivial matters.If you speak your mind, you will upset someone.Even if others disagree, you must still express your opinion.You can avoid a long-term offense if you choose your words carefully.

Step 1: Ask people what they think.

It’s important to know their perspective before you talk about how you feel.This allows you to have a conversation and show genuine interest.This may allow you to speak up and be honest.They might end their explanation with a request to hear your perspective.

Step 2: Put your feet in their shoes.

To avoid hurting feelings, imagine how they will respond to your statements.Would you be upset if they said that to you?Imagine how they view your opinion.Their perspective doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

Step 3: Your words and body language can be controlled.

You should be careful with your honesty.You want to be kind.They need to avoid disapproving behaviors such as grimacing or making fun of their ideas.It’s possible that you don’t know your voice is broadcasting disapproval.This can be hard to change.A vocal tone is created subconsciously.Resist the urge to show your feelings and emotions in your voice by speaking in a neutral tone.It’s not necessary to convey disapproval non-verbally once you speak your opinion.

Step 4: Your responses should be polite.

It’s best to speak with kindness if you want to avoid hurting others.politeness and common gestures of kindness go a long way.They show you value the other person.This situation isn’t just about you speaking your mind.It’s about them feeling appreciated.

Step 5: You should express your perspective as an opinion.

You value their perspective even if you know the facts.Facts will change their perspective if they have an open mind.Facts will feel like personal attacks if they don’t have an open mind.They have a right to be wrong.They can come to the truth on their own.It’s easy to hurt feelings by forcing your perspective.Don’t condemn or criticize.This is important and may seem difficult.Speak your truth in a way that doesn’t make them feel bad.”You’re wrong there” and “I can’t believe you think that” are not to be said.When their perspective is in line with their justifications, agree with them.If your statement is not directly antagonistic towards theirs, follow with your perspective.Don’t use hyperbole.Rarely are things always and never.Don’t use words and phrases that exaggerate the truth.hyperbole rarely is honest and your goal is to be honest.If you want to avoid letting your emotions run high, use facts.

Step 6: Don’t take it personally.

Being right is not the same as being honest.You can be correct at the same time.You can be honest and still hurt feelings at the same time.You should be humble with your perspective.Resist the urge to convert others’ perspectives to yours.You can place value in your own perspective.You have the right to your opinion.Remember, your perspective is just as valid as theirs, even if you chose to be quiet.They have a right to be honest.They have a right to their opinion.Even if their opinion is not in line with their beliefs.If they don’t hear you, forcing the issue will hurt feelings.They are not ready for it.It’s ok if they disagree with you.Resist the urge to get them to agree with you.You might have to let them make their own mistakes if it’s important.That doesn’t mean you’re wrong when they disagree with you.This does not mean they don’t care about you.They have a different perspective.

Step 7: Do you need to say anything at all?

Being silent means being honest.You may find an honest expression of your desire for peace outweighs the desire to speak your mind.People are compelled to speak their minds.Sometimes people do that to change someone’s mind.This leads to a confrontation and hurt feelings.

Step 8: A sincere invitation to listen to their opinion is enough to start a discussion.

They can give you the whole story or they can say they don’t want to talk about it.Pay attention to what they say.You can gauge how they will respond to your honest opinion.If they don’t discuss the issue, honor their wishes.Maybe it’s the wrong time or place.Try again later.If they keep rebuffing you, you may need to express your opinion in a different way.

Step 9: The source of the difference of opinion should be identified.

Understand what your opinion is.Try to understand what their opinion is.Some disagreements are based on fundamental political, religious, and moral beliefs.You can be respectful of the opinion if you know those bases.

Step 10: Wait for them to either ask you your opinion or give you theirs.

They should be patient, kind, and attentive.This shows you are interested in them.

Step 11: Discuss your point of view.

If you want to not hurt feelings, you must allow for the possibility that they are correct.You can say “I’ve thought that…” instead of “You are wrong.”

Step 12: Look at verbal and bodily signals.

Stop the discussion if it is getting heated.If you haven’t already done so, you are about to hurt their feelings.Let them know you value them.If you say something that hurts their feelings, apologize.You can move on with your life if you apologize early.It may take much longer to repair the hurt if you wait too late.Don’t use apologies too much.It can lower the value of an apology if you say “I’m sorry” too much.Identifying when you’ve done something wrong and being sincere about your apology is the goal.

Step 13: Thank you for sharing and listening.

It is possible to end the difference of opinion on a positive note.Comment that you understand where they are coming from and hope they understand your perspective as well.

Step 14: You should delay your response.

Do not respond immediately to a request that you think will be turned down.A quick “No” will make it hard to formulate a decline.A simple way to get back to you is to check my calendar.You have time to make a response in your head.

Step 15: There are conflicts on your calendar.

You will have a scheduling conflict if you are lucky.Due to the conflict, you can decline.Let them know if the only reason for declining is the conflict.The person may ask for a better time if they are persistent.Prepare to respond with a decline.If you see your calendar is busy, it’s a good idea to think about a decline if they ask for a better time.

Step 16: Don’t admit that your schedule is open.

This is similar to saying you are free for whatever the person wants you to do.Before making an offer or request, some people will ask about your schedule.You don’t have to be mean to turn them down.You sacrifice the “Let me check my calendar” time to make a polite decline.You can simply reply, “I don’t know, why do you ask?” if someone starts asking about your schedule.Stay polite.Even if you want to accept, this is a good practice.

Step 17: What is the reason you want to decline?

You have a reason to decline before you check your calendar.Do you like the task?Were you going to go with someone else?There are reasons you can decline that focus on aspects of the offer or request.

Step 18: Do you accept under different circumstances?

You can imagine how circumstances might be different if you know why you are declining.Maybe they asked you to do something different or give you more money.If the other party asks why you are declining, keep these in mind.There are reasons for declining a request.If it’s clear that the answer would hurt their feelings, consider a vague response.You may be able to get by with “I’d rather not say.”

Step 19: Remember to respond.

You must turn down a request to be polite if you have already made up your mind.You may be put on a list of “have not replied” if you ignore the request.If you don’t respond, they may think you’re not important.Promptly reply to requests.Non- personal reasons for declining should be emphasized.Don’t say anything bad about the person making the request or offer.

Step 20: Thank you for being included.

Consider how lucky you are that the other person values you.They may be disappointed but not hurt.You can decline their offer without long-term hurt feelings if you are polite.

Step 21: To show appreciation, smile.

It means they value you if someone is asking for your opinion.That knowledge can be used to make a genuine smile.The sting of disapproval will be less personal because of this.

Step 22: Ask them what they like about the outfit.

You can hear their point of view.You have time to carefully word your comments.You will get a measurement of how much they like or dislike the outfit or style.They may talk about their own reservations.

Step 23: The person is more important than the outfit or style.

The person under the outfit is beautiful.The outfit is hiding something.Don’t critique the outfit or style just because of the person’s negative characteristics.If you can, ask for a standard of dress to back up your opinion.If a new haircut, tattoo, or nail polish could cause them trouble at work, use business dress standards.If it were better tailored, the outfit would look better.

Step 24: Don’t agree with a negative self- image.

“I’m just too fat for this outfit…” may prompt self-deprecating statements.Do not agree with them.Some things don’t need to be said if you think they are correct.You aren’t trying to hurt their feelings, right?You might want to disagree with the negative statement.This dress doesn’t highlight how beautiful you are.If you don’t disagree with a negative statement the speaker may take that as an admission of your agreement.When you know this is true, be quick to disagree.

Step 25: Discuss how other styles work better.

You can be productive in two ways.You should offer alternatives for them to try.It allows you to shower them with complement.You value them despite the negative feedback you gave them.References to their positive characteristics should always be included at this stage.Positive aspects should be highlighted since you avoided mentioning personal characteristics before.