It stinks at school.If someone is stirring up problems and won’t leave you alone, what do you do?By choosing good company, avoiding gossip, and knowing when enough is enough, you can limit the amount of drama that you face at school.
Step 1: Avoid people who are negative or dramatic.
They are always complaining about something.Don’t make eye contact, respond with words or actions, or give a clue as to what they said.Remember that you don’t want those negative people in your life, even if it causes this person to go around bad-mouthing you.
Step 2: Don’t go to the clique.
Cliques are small, well-known social groups that don’t allow new members very often, and they tend to start a lot of drama at school with bully and gossip.Don’t try to get into a group that already exists, even though it might seem cool to be in the most exclusive group.They will see you as their new target.You can form your own unique friend groups by finding people in the same club or activity as you.It’s always good to be open to new members.
Step 3: Be tolerant of other people’s behavior.
If someone does something wrong, try not to judge them.If they were correct, that person might not be a good friend in the future.
Step 4: Cut out people who are mean.
Mean people make your problems about themselves, demand your attention, and don’t support you when you need it.There is no shame in saying, “I don’t think we should be friends anymore” if you are hurt more than happy.Mean people make fun of your body or clothing, pressure people to do what they want even if they say no, and talk back to teachers.You don’t want these qualities in a friend.
Step 5: Escape plans can be used for difficult situations.
If someone can’t take the hint that you’re not interested in being involved, give a polite but firm excuse and leave.It will usually work if you say, “I have to go.”Say “I would like to get back to my work now” if you are stuck with someone.
Step 6: Spread gossip.
It might not be true in the first place if you tell other people about it.You can’t know for certain if your information is correct if the truth changes from one story to the next.You wouldn’t want someone doing that to you, even if it was fun to talk about other people.
Step 7: Say how you feel when someone gossips with you.
If someone asks you directly if you know anything about a rumor, say “I don’t like spreading rumors” and change the subject.Honesty is the best policy.Lying will cause more problems in the long run, even though you can be polite when answering tough questions.
Step 8: It’s a good idea to keep your information to yourself.
If you tell a secret, people could be hurt.Treat people the way you want to be treated.If someone tells you something that endangers them or other people, don’t keep quiet about it.To get help, tell a counselor, teacher, or parent right away.
Step 9: If someone is being mean to you, stay calm.
Instead of making faces, cursing or copying emotions, use a calm voice and pleasant demeanor.If you are asked to be involved in a situation, be unavailable without giving a reason.It is possible to say, “Sorry, I don’t have time to do that right now”, but you should not reveal that you think their idea is a bad one.
Step 10: Do not answer questions that don’t concern the other person.
If you decide to move to a different math class, don’t defend your decision to the people questioning you.It is not their business.If people ask you why you are doing something, offer a vague response like “I just wanted to”.
Step 11: Change your routine.
Instead of sitting with the group of problem people, sit with a new person.If you distance yourself from the tension, they might want to as well.
Step 12: Think before you act.
Overreactions and impulsivity can make drama worse.If someone upsets you, take a few deep breaths and think about their position.Do you think that person would do the same thing to me even if I told them not to?
Step 13: Vent to people that don’t have ties to your school.
Outside friends, parents, and family members can help you understand what’s going on.If you need help with a problem, they will be there for you, so you can trust other people.
Step 14: Don’t use social media too much.
Keep your feed positive.Religion and politics can get people angry, so don’t overshare them.You don’t have to post every thought you have.