People who are shy think of this personality trait as negative.It is not a bad thing.Being shy is not a problem.People may say, “Oh, why are you so shy?”That may make you cringe, but there are many benefits to being shy.You have time to think.You are personable because you are calm in social situations, and you don’t get too close to people who may be unreliable.Since these benefits are not enough to convince you to accept being shy, the following are some methods you can use to finally be able to love you for who you are.
Step 1: Think about your past.
When you think about shyness, you may not remember it benefiting you.If you just approached the CEO you could have had a dream job, but it would have kept you from that guy or girl.You can change your thinking to come up with positives that came out of being shy, because it’s your natural tendency to think about the negative results of shyness.
Step 2: A list can be made.
Many of the negatives of being shy can be listed.You have been able to benefit from being shy.It’s possible to listen to others more closely if you’re shy.You have time to take in information about your surroundings.You have a deep and rich inner life even though you are shy.If you listen more than talk, you can catch what people are saying.You might have a tendency to analyze situations so you know what you are getting into before you make a move.You can allow people to vent about their lives without disrupting them.It’s comfortable to be alone and there is a chance you enjoy it.
Step 3: Don’t forget to keep a journal.
You can use a journal to record situations in which shyness has helped you.When you read through your entries, this will help you.When you feel like your shyness is interfering in your life, you can always go back to see how you’ve benefited.Writing down how shyness has helped you in your career is something you might want to do.Your love life can be helped by shyness.Look for ways it does and write it down.You can figure out what you really want in life if you concentrate on yourself.Write down the challenges you have faced and how you overcame them.Next time you face similar struggles, this can help.
Step 4: The mirror has a look in it.
Take a close look at yourself.That is you.You have done some great things in your life, you are unique.Look in the mirror.When you smile at yourself, pay attention to how you feel.Don’t make fun of your appearance or personality.Accept who you are at that moment.This is how you can begin to love yourself.You are who you are.As you look in the mirror, remind yourself of your great qualities and say them out loud.
Step 5: You should hug yourself.
All you need is your arms and body to do this.Think about how you feel when someone hugs you.It feels good, doesn’t it?If you do it completely, hugging yourself will have the same effect.It can boost your self-esteem and reduce stress.It allows you to show yourself affection that you haven’t shown in a long time.You can hug yourself by wrapping your left arm around your chest and right arm.Wrap the right arm around your chest and upper arm.You need to give yourself a soft squeeze.You can stay in this position for as long as you want.You should pat yourself on the back.It’s not a hug, but it can give you the same benefits.Bring your hand across your chest and over your alternate shoulder.You can give a pat on the back.
Step 6: It’s important to sleep, eat, and move.
The more you feel good about yourself, the better.There are days when you don’t have a problem with yourself.You are probably in a better mood than when you have a headaches, right?It’s important to take care of yourself.If you feel bad about your shyness, you don’t need to be tired or sick.To celebrate your shyness, you need to feel great.It’s important to get at least seven hours of sleep.Around seven hours is average for some people and not for others.To find out how long you have to sleep, try different amounts of hours.Make sure to go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.That includes the weekends.You should eat foods that nourish your body.Your body is strong.Fuel is needed to make it through the day.When you don’t provide the fuel it needs, it starts to slow down and struggle when it comes to fighting off illnesses and getting work done.This can make you feel sad.Don’t allow yourself to feel bad about yourself if you eat the diet recommended by the USDA.Exercise.Your body is meant to be active.If you don’t exercise your muscles and organs, they will become weak and inefficient.The results are feeling fatigued, depressed, and sick.Make sure you give your body what it needs to stay strong with aerobic and weight lifting exercises because you don’t want to deal with that.If it’s moderate, people should exercise at least 150 minutes a week.
Step 7: People who are shy should be spending time with them.
It’s nice to spend time with other people who feel the same way as you do.It can be hard to get together with people who are shy since they are not as outgoing, but if you can find at least one other person, you will see the benefits.
Step 8: At social events, pay attention to people who are alone.
You are likely shy as well.You may not be comfortable approaching them because of your shyness, but try to get close to them.It’s great if you can strike up a conversation.The other person may say hello if they are in close proximity.You can make it easier to say hello by making a joke about being shy.”These social events are difficult because I’m so shy.”Say this and you can accept your shyness.Don’t say “So I see you’re just as shy as me” because other people may not be at your level of acceptance of being shy.
Step 9: There should be a support group.
It is easy to start a support group in your community.You can put fliers in libraries, Starbucks, and other public places and then show up at the time and place you indicated on the flier.Being able to step out of your comfort zone while still holding on to the fact that you are shy can help.Say hello and ask people how they feel about being shy.You are having a normal conversation with your friends.
Step 10: Start a group for people who are shy.
It’s a great way to meet new people in your community.You can set up a personal profile for your group.It’s a good idea to describe the goal of the group.People want to know why they should join your group.You can meet them offline if you have a few people interested.You don’t have to start your own group.It is possible that one is already made for shy people.Before creating a new one, search for one first.
Step 11: People who are shy should join online communities.
How to overcome shyness, how to help others who are shy, and what it feels like to be shy are some of the topics discussed in online communities.It’s a great place to learn how to accept your shyness and meet other people who share your struggles.Many websites and social media groups are for shy people.You can join forums on websites and groups.If you don’t like a group, you can start your own.If you aren’t ready to start a support group in your community, this might be a good alternative.
Step 12: You can research the benefits of being shy.
Over the years, shyness has been the focus of many studies.The advantages of being shy have come about.Write down the studies that support the good in being shy.
Step 13: To keep up with the latest research on shyness, start a news alert.
You will receive an email when there is new research about shyness.You will need to use a search term for the news.Shir studies, shy research, shyness benefits, and benefits of being shy are some of the words you may want to use.If you want to receive encouragements throughout the day, please request the alert as soon as possible.As you can see, there are more phrases used in research that have to do with shyness.Put in as many as you can to make sure you don’t miss anything.
Step 14: The university is doing research on shyness.
You may be able to learn more about what they have found in their studies if you participate in the research.Usually universities have professors and student assistants looking for volunteers to help with data collection.You can use your shyness to help others.
Step 15: You can schedule an appointment with the counselor.
It can be hard to accept yourself.This is usually related to your past.You can uncover the reasons you can’t accept your shyness.Understanding why you are against it is all it takes.By working with a counselor, you’ll be able to comb through the roots of your shy personality and then work with him/her on how to change your perception of it to finally accept it.Do you know if your insurance company covers behavioral health?Counselors who help people who are shy can be found online.If you can, ask the counselor how she approaches helping people who are not confident about their shyness.
Step 16: Seek help from your doctor.
Depression can be caused by not accepting your shyness.Depression can make you feel like you want to harm yourself or others.This is serious.If you ever feel this way for a depression assessment, call your physician.It is possible to have hope for how you feel.You can love yourself.
Step 17: Consider working with a coach.
A life coach with experience working with shy people will often have a program in place to help guide you through the process of acceptance.A lot of the steps have been mentioned with embracing shyness, loving yourself, and learning more about the benefits.A life coach can help you if you need someone by your side to celebrate your progress towards acceptance.Many coaches have websites to market their services, so look for one with experience in shyness or confidence building.It is a good idea to find a coach that has some training in the area of life coaching.If you want to find a coach who will be ethical, check the International Coach Federation for one that has fulfilled their requirements.A partnership between a coach and a client is called coaching.The coach and you will come up with ways to accept your shyness.You will have work in between sessions to further help you as you move towards your goals of accepting shyness.