Don’t look desperate.

When we are vulnerable, it is common to feel desperate.Maybe you’ve just broken up from a long-term relationship or have had a major life change.You want to project self-confidence and avoid desperate behavior.

Step 1: Don’t complain about your single status.

It makes you appear desperate for a date even if you joke about it.This will make you look desperate and it will show you don’t respect your friends who are in relationships.You’re lucky to have a boyfriend, I wish I could have what you have.I would love to have a boyfriend, but I don’t want to be the third wheel.

Step 2: Don’t fish for attention.

You are trying to get other people to compliment you.You expect someone to disagree with you when you say something negative about yourself.Don’t fish for someone to compliment you or your friends.This makes you look desperate.Don’t say: “I’m so fat.”I will never get a man.

Step 3: Don’t ignore your friends.

Don’t neglect your network to make yourself look better.This will make you lose friends.Do not tell an embarrassing story about your friend to make yourself look better.You ignore your friends while you try and get the attention of a cute boy or girl.Negative comments about your friends will make you look better.I.e.He isn’t into basketball.Not like me.

Step 4: Don’t exaggerate the truth.

The truth will always prevail, as long as you don’t lie to get the attention of another.Lying is common when dating.Lying about money or salary.Lying about your age.Lying about relationship status.

Step 5: Try not to try too hard.

You have to learn to be happy with yourself in order to have a happy relationship with another person.If you are trying too hard to be someone that you aren’t, you will add stress to your life and that of your partner.Trying to make your partner feel good in a relationship is a good thing, but overdoing it may come off as desperate.It could make your partner think you need too much.It is good to be clear and honest about your expectations in a relationship, but expecting too much too fast can come off as desperate.Don’t expect to talk about big life decisions early in a relationship.

Step 6: It’s a good idea to learn when to walk away.

Once you know that someone isn’t interested in you, it’s time to stop pursuing and walk away.It is possible that someone will resent you if you pursue someone who is not interested.If you’re desperate to hold onto the relationship, consider walking away.You can’t remember the last time you had a meaningful, heart-to-heart talk.You can’t list what you have in common.Your partner does not respect you.You can’t compromise with your partner.The bad times outweigh the good times.

Step 7: Don’t talk about it.

Don’t follow the object of your affections on social media or the internet.Don’t post on pictures, posts, or emails.Don’t make over-analyzing posts on social media.Researching other friends that have reached out to your partner/crush is an example of e-stalking behavior.He/she is reading his/her e-mail.He/she is looking through his/her old posts or pictures.It can be called out for talking to other people online.

Step 8: Don’t be clingy behavior.

You want your partner to be comfortable with you.You don’t want to scare him or her away.Texting more than twice in a row or within 10 minutes of last texting is against the rules.When you have a legitimate reason, try and only text.If he doesn’t contact you right away, do not be upset.Do not try to follow your partner.Don’t be too accommodating.If your partner wants to hang out or go on a date, you don’t need to worry about making plans with your friends.

Step 9: Personal standards need to be maintained.

It is easy to get desperate for someone if you have been single for a long time.This could lead to a bad relationship.Look for a partner who will respect you and your interests.Being with someone who doesn’t respect you shows desperation.Someone who will not belittle you is what you should look for.Someone who enjoys spending time with you.If you are in a relationship with someone who you only see when it’s convenient for them, then you may be desperate for a good company.You should look for a partner with the same goals and values.You don’t want someone who will disrespect you.

Step 10: Don’t rationalize bad treatment.

Desperate actions can be seen when looking for a relationship, but they can also show up in ongoing relationships.Don’t hold onto a relationship that is no longer working.If your partner is emotionally or physically abusive, consider ending the relationship.You don’t have to live with this, it’s dangerous to your emotional and physical health.Your partner doesn’t respect you or your family.If you want a guy that your mother would approve of, do not be desperate to please others in your relationship.It is important to be in a relationship for reasons that work for you, not for the sake of being single.A negative presence in your life is your partner.Don’t make excuses for your partner in hopes that he will change.Supporting your partner is one thing, but making continual excuses is another.

Step 11: You shouldn’t compare yourself to others.

This will cause a negative body image.List what makes you unique.Do you compare yourself to others?Is it your appearance?Is your intelligence?It is easier to get rid of these feelings once you identify them.You have control over your actions and feelings.It’s easy to think that society should tell us how to look and act, but you are the only person who can make those decisions.Try to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.A good habit will build self-confidence and happiness.

Step 12: You should surround yourself with people who are positive.

People cheering you on makes it easier to build a good habit.You should surround yourself with positive people who will help you make good decisions.